Love educator Francesca Hogi joins The Black Woman’s Confidant this week to share her wisdom on embracing your authentic self and inviting serendipity into your romantic journey. As the founder of The True Love Society and author of How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships, Francesca brings a wealth of experience to the table. After transitioning from a career as a corporate lawyer, she found her true calling in matchmaking and coaching, dedicating herself to helping others realize the love they deserve inside and out.
Throughout this episode Francesca provides practical advice on taking active steps in your dating life. She also dives into the fundamental importance of self love as well as valuable tools to determine your genuine readiness for dating.
About Francesca Hogi
Francesca Hogi is a love educator, coach, founder of The True Love Society, and author of How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships. A former corporate lawyer, Francesca pivoted to matchmaking and coaching, and never looked back. She’s passionate about empowering others to have the love they deserve, inside and out.
Key Points
00:20 Introduction
1:00 A lot of professional women are waiting
2:14 Starting with the big picture
4:00 Understanding that dating is new
6:00 Historically, the bar has been low
7:30 You have to show up differently if you want more
8:00 The men in our lives
9:40 Think about what you want to experience in a relationship
11:30 Why people are struggling with being their authentic self
13:30 The gamification of dating
15:12: Putting yourself out there
17:35 Resistance to flirting
19:11 Flirting doesn’t have to be sexual
21:40 You have to give indication to men
22:25 Creating conditions where connection is more likely
24:30 Courting serendipity
25:35 Being in the moment
26:50 Resisting attention
29:10 Knowing how to love
29:50 Love is an inside job
31:00 Analyzing core beliefs about yourself
33:20 Doing the work
35:00 Putting in the work can strengthen all areas of your life
36:15 Stop overworking
38:00 How you childhood can impact your dating
40:00 Honoring your childhood
42:15 Dating can help you learn something about yourself
45:30 Don’t assume you know how your love story will unfold
46:50 Where you can find Francesca
Buy Francesca’s Book
Order Francesca’s Book here: How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships
Follow Francesca on Patreon
Join Francesca’s Patreon: The True Love Society
Episode Resources
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Visit Francesca’s site: FrancescaHogi.com
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