On this week’s episode of The Black Woman’s Confidant, Dr. Nicole addresses a listener’s question on cultivating inner peace. Dr. Nicole emphasizes the importance of building a steady peace that is not rooted in avoidance, especially in a constantly changing world. As a psychiatrist, Dr. Nicole provides practical guidance on creating cognitive flexibility and developing the space between an event and your reaction to it. Listeners will also learn valuable strategies for pivoting instead of panicking, and how to safely challenge the boundaries of their peace.

Key Points

00:20 Answering a listener’s question

2:00 Are you protecting your peace or hiding out?

3:03 Peace can be based in avoidance

4:22 Thermostat vs thermometer 

6:00 Starting with the end in mind

6:46 Building the gap between an experience and your response

7:15 Creating cognitive flexibility

10:20 Finding moments to safely challenge your peace

12:07 Calling out peace disturbances 

13:55 Moving from an irrational space to a rational space

14:56 How to manage peace disturbances

16:46 Filtering exercises

19:51 How to pivot instead of panicking

21:27 Analyzing disruptions

22:40 Borrowing disruptions

23:25 Internal disrupters

25:00 Knowing what peace actually is

25:30 Conclusion

Episode Resources

Download the Unshakable Peace ToolKit Here: Unshakable Peace Toolkit

Connect with Dr. Nicole

Follow the Podcast @theblackwomansconfidant

Follow Dr. Nicole on Instagram @drnicolepsych

Follow Dr. Nicole on Facebook Dr. Nicole Psych

Follow Dr. Nicole on X @drnicolepsych

Follow Dr. Nicole on tik tok @drnicolepsych