On this week’s episode of The Black Woman’s Confidant, Dr. Nicole addresses a listener’s concern about being perceived as “meaner” since beginning their trauma healing journey. Drawing on her expertise as a psychiatrist, Dr. Nicole explores the underlying reasons for this shift in perception among those around you and offers guidance on managing this newfound assertiveness.
Key Points
0:22 A quick catch up
2:49 Answering a listener’s question
3:38 Being more assertive
4:10 Looking at depression
4:40 Not having the energy to fight
5:28 Coming out of the depression
6:17 Asserting and standing up for yourself
6:35 Looking at PTSD
7:00 Conflict can bring up trauma
8:00 Avoiding the hard conversations
9:10 Not participating in decision making
10:18 Finding your voice
11:00 Others can benefit from your passiveness
12:00 Implementing boundaries can cause conflict
12:45 When you stop over explaining yourself
13:57 When you start enforcing your boundaries
14:38 Learning to say no
14:57 Prioritizing yourself
15:30 Voicing your wants and needs
16:00 Taking some responsibility
16:50 Gaining clarity
17:45 Keeping good relationships
18:44 Sometimes we go too far
19:18 You can over correct
19:40 A therapist can offer a different perspective
20:35 Power can be intoxicating
21:00 You still have to give a bit
22:15 Reaching new levels
22:54 Working through the trauma not getting over it
23:40 Relationships will get stronger
24:24 We need people
24:58 Work with professionals
25:32 Conclusion
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