This week on The Black Woman’s Confidant, we feature Dr. Adiaha Spinks-Franklin for a conversation about preparing for non-traditional families. Dr. Spinks-Franklin is an African American cis-gender woman, a board-certified Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrician, wife, mother, and grandmother.

As a lifelong anti-oppression/pro-liberation child advocate and social justice warrior, Dr. Spinks-Franklin offers her expertise on the role of a developmental pediatrician, as well as how factors like genetic loads and prenatal environments can impact children. Dr. Spinks-Franklin also offers insights about the common mistakes adoptive families make, signs of trauma to watch for in your children and why not every unique behavior is a disorder.

About Dr. Adiaha Spinks-Franklin

Dr. Adiaha Spinks-Franklin is an African American cis-gender woman who is a board certified Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrician, wife, mother, and grandmother and lives on farm. She is a life-long anti-oppression/pro-liberation child advocate and Social Justice Warrior.

Dr. Spinks-Franklin serves on multiple national committees, including the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) Section on Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics (SODBP) Executive Committee, American Board of Pediatrics Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics Subboard, and is the Immediate Past-President of the Society for Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics.

Dr. Spinks-Franklin earned a bachelor’s degree from the University of Texas at Austin. She graduated with honors with a Doctor of Medicine from Meharry Medical College School of Medicine in Nashville, TN. She completed Pediatric residency at the Children’s Hospital of Michigan/Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. Then Dr. Spinks-Franklin went to Boston Children’s a completed 2 fellowships: the Dyson Advocacy Fellowship and the Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics Fellowship. She earned a Master’s in Public Health degree from the Harvard School of Public Health during her fellowship. She has participated in global pediatric healthcare initiatives in Africa, Asia, the Caribbean, and South America.

Dr. Spinks-Franklin is a descendant of the enslaved, freedom fighters, and generations of social justice warriors. She has actively worked to dismantle racism and systems of oppression since she was a teenager. Dr. Spinks-Franklin identifies as Wonder Woman.

Key Points

00:20 Introduction to Dr. Spinks-Franklin

1:05 Hesitation towards non traditional families

2:17 What a developmental pediatrician is

2:50  Developmental pediatrician’s roles in non traditional families

3:50 The evaluations that developmental pediatricians perform

5:45 You have to study your children

6:15 If you adopt, you are adopting 3 children in 1

7:05 Understanding the complexity of your child

8:00 The bio psycho social cultural aspect

8:34 How an unwelcoming womb can impact a child even after they are born

9:30 Genetic loads can impact your child

11:00 Environmental impacts on your child

12:00 Things that impact pregnancy 

14:25 Managing stress

16:05 Pursuing a family the non traditional route

16:35 Start the journey with a primary care pediatrician early

16:47 Find a mental health professional who has expertise in trauma and adoption

19:12 Trauma signs you should look out for in your child

21:19 Puberty changes everything

22:14 More signs that you should seek help

26:00 Its okay to be quirky

27:13 Everything is not a disorder or disability

28:41 Temperament vs personality

29:17 There can be personality mismatches in parents and children

29:36 Goodness of fit

31:40 Studying your child

32:00 Multigenerational support is critical

33:25 You can’t parent all children the same

33:42 Where you can find Dr. Spinks-Franklin

Episode Resources

Dr. Spinks-Franklin’s Website Adoption and Beyond

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