This week on The Black Woman’s Confidant, Dr. Nicole concludes her parenting conversation with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. As a pediatric psychologist and parent coach, Dr. Lockhart shares her expertise on why removing yourself from the parenting equation is important, how self-care can improve your parenting as well the importance of individualized parenting for each of your children.
About Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, speaker, and author. Having spent years feeling disconnected from her own mom during her teen years, she didn’t want parents and teens to experience the same. So, she wrote a book to help parents feel more connected with their teens. The book is titled “Love the Teen You Have” and is currently available for pre-order. Dr. Ann-Louise has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and on The Today Show. Her dynamic, relatable style has made her a trusted voice for parents nationwide.
Key Points
00:40 Taking yourself out of the equation
1:00 Stop invalidating your children’s feelings
2:29 Struggling to parent at the same age you had problems
3:45 Strategies for parenting in current times
4:30 Putting yourself on the back burner
5:44 Feeling triggered by normal child behavior
6:50 Self care can improve your parenting
7:00 Filling our own cup
9:00 Find support where you can
10:50 Preserving yourself
11:15 You are modeling adulthood for your children
11:45 Empty nesting
12:45 How to let go of your teen/ young adult
15:00 Be more compassionate with yourself
15:30 Learning to sit in your emotions
17:10 The cycle of parenting
18:40 Sometimes things don’t work out
19:15 No two children have the same parents
20:50 The different phases of your life can impact your parenting
22:30 Be patient with your teens
24:00 Developing good foundational skills in your teens
25:50 Where you can find Dr. Lockhart
27:30 Conclusion
Quotables
“You are the MVP” – Dr. Nicole Psych
“Self care isn’t just a bubble bath and a spa day” – Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
“I planted these seeds and now they are nurtured” – Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
“Your kids may get different versions of you” – Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
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