This week, The Black Woman’s Confidant welcomes Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, speaker, and author. Driven by her own experience of disconnect with her mother during her teenage years, Dr. Lockhart wrote “Love the Teen You Have” to help parents foster stronger connections with their teens. In the first part of our conversation, Dr. Lockhart shares her insights on how to embrace the teen you have, how to create an environment that nurtures healthy adults, and how you can equip your children with essential coping strategies for daily life.
About Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, speaker, and author. Having spent years feeling disconnected from her own mom during her teen years, she didn’t want parents and teens to experience the same. So, she wrote a book to help parents feel more connected with their teens. The book is titled “Love the Teen You Have” and is currently available for pre-order. Dr. Ann-Louise has been featured in The New York Times, Parents, HuffPost, and on The Today Show. Her dynamic, relatable style has made her a trusted voice for parents nationwide.
Key Points
00:15 Introduction to Dr. Lockhart
00:50 Dr. Nicole’s journey to parenting
1:46 The mission of growing healthy adults
2:26 Loving the teen you have
3:30 Recognizing the bigger goal in parenting
5:10 Dr. Lockhart’s background
6:00 The inspiration behind her book
6:55 Parenting can be fun
7:11 We all mess up when parenting
7:53 How not to repeat patterns in parenting
9:28 Parenting is hard work
10:15 Parenting can be scary
11:35 Each phase is preparing you for the next
12:45 How to help your teen with executive functioning
14:00 You have to give your teens opportunities to build skills
15:20 Helping your teen take ownership of tasks
16:05 You have to put the work in to change your parenting
17:50 Most parents form their approach to parenting from their parents
19:04 Setting your teen up for success
20:40 Parenting out of fear
21:10 Frustration tolerance
22:05 How to help your teen develop coping strategies
24:30 Don’t let your teen escape frustration
26:00 Not developing coping strategies as a teen shows up in adulthood
27:30 Parenting is raising healthy adults
28:00 Helping your teens to cope with the little things
29:15 Stop projecting your feelings onto your teen
Quotables
“Don’t parent imaginary kids” – Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
“Teens are supposed to be their own individuals” – Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
“We don’t parent out of fear” – Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
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